It is an amazing thing to find someone on your journey who clicks with you in such a way that they just get you on every level without even trying. It’s an even more amazing thing to have an opportunity to share in a relationship with each other. However, like so many things we experience on our journeys, change remains a constant. Sometimes relationships end and our shared paths end up just being intersections where we only share a moment with those amazing people before we continue on our intended path.
I have always envied those whose paths converge on that intimate emotional and spiritual level indefinitely. Unfortunately, that envy has sometimes blinded me from the lasting positive impressions left on my life by those who have continued on in their own journey apart from mine. Like a scrapbook, our hearts carry with them the mementos of shared love and companionship, along with the life lessons that accompany them. Those lessons can become relational milestones which help shape us into the best versions of ourselves.
Other times we are blessed to share our paths with our soulmates as our closest friends, even after sharing an intimate relationship with each other. With an intimate history comes the challenge of being a friend with appropriate boundaries: separating what we share now from what we shared then. That’s not saying that people don’t have seasons of separation or redefinition, eventually resulting in the return to a shared path of intimate companionship. But sometimes connections are best when they remain platonic through healthy boundaries established from mutual trust, understanding and experience.
When we see challenges impact a soulmate, many of us choose to respond in love and compassion. But when we look deeply we can feel old feelings get churned up causing us to echo sentimental epithets of the past. Like all relationships, boundaries are important in keeping interactions between friends healthy and positive. I have had moments where I find myself longing for what I lost, but I find contentment in the fact that I still share my path with a cherished friend.
Instead of lamenting the past or focusing on what we can’t have, we need to focus on what we share in this moment. Learning to appreciate the blessings we have in our lives is an important part to finding fulfillment and happiness. I am so blessed to share my journey with some amazing people who make my life better just by being a part of it.